On (not) sleeping through the night.

Navi still gets up in the middle of the night, every night. She normally has one to three get ups per night, and we haven't really been able to pinpoint a rhyme or reason to the nights when she gets up more times than usual. She cries and we either give her a pacifier, rub her back, feed her or rock her and one way or another everyone's usually back to sleep within 15 minutes. And its not often, but sometimes there are times when this little dance of ours can take an hour (very uncool). I wouldn't say that we've gotten used to this delicious little nighttime routine of ours, but we have accepted it (to an extent).

Babies that sleep through the night are great (bless them!) but that has just never been Navi's cup of tea. Over the last year we have had a million and one different ideas tossed our way from a million and one different people about what we should or shouldn't be doing to get Navi to sleep through the night. "My baby slept through the night right away, you should ______..." or "Still getting up after a year!? She should be_________..." etc. None of these ideas that have been tossed our way sounded like they would be a good fit for us- we figure all babies are different and all parents are different and our little family will get to where it needs to be in its own time. So we keep doing what we do and she keeps doing what she does and we're hopeful that when she's a teenager she won't need mom or dad to rub her back or rock her to sleep at 1am and 4am each night (though at that point I'll probably be missing baby snuggles pretty bad so who knows, maybe I'd welcome it. No. Probably not. I like sleep- just don't tell Navi, she thinks her and I are on the same anti-slumber team and I wouldn't want to blow my cover and disappoint ;).

Its funny how when people ask "hows Navi?" one of the first things they bring up is what kind of a sleeper she is. Its been this way since day one. I was the same way when I'd ask about people's babies, especially before I had a child of my own. The thought of getting up in the night was so foreign and sounded so miserable to me that I just really couldn't imagine such activities taking place for any length of time and still keeping my sanity. Now I know different. Us humans, we're pretty darn adaptable. And babies? They're designed to be so stinking cute that you forget about any and all transgressions :) I read a quote on a bumper sticker once that said "I'm raising a child not managing an inconvenience". I think this statement is so great. I don't want to make Navi "fit" into my life, my schedule. This is our life now and we will figure out our way, together, as a family... one sleep deprived day at a time ;)
^^^Luckily for us, Navi likes to make up for her nighttime behavior during the day. Its amazing how far a little kiss goes towards helping me forget the previous night's shenanigans ;)
^^^Magnolia blossoms!!! They're here!!!
^^^One of her favorite activities at the moment. 
^^^Story time with Nana. She loves going over to her house and exploring all her bookshelves of goodies- its like a mini adventure, right down the street!

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  1. Awesome that you don't let other people's advice/opinions sway what you think is best for your lil family. You are one awesome momma I have three and I'm pretty sure if they hadn't been great sleepers I'd have been/would be a monster without my solid Z's!;)

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    1. Haha thanks, Emily. It can be so hard to follow your mama intuition with your first baby and I often have to fight that doubting I sometimes have in the back of my mind about my parenting decisions...At the end of the day I just try my best to do what I think is best, regardless of whether or not its the popular opinion.

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  2. My son is 19 months old and still wakes up at night occasionally, sometimes staying up for 2 hours!!! I stopped feeding him at night when he was 9 months old, thinking that would help....it didn't. But here we are! My husband and I have never let him cry it out, we just get up and cuddle him. Yes, we're tired, but what's a few years of sleep deprivation anyway? We love him and like you, just accept our baby for who he is. Moms need to be commended more for doing what is best for their babies, even if it means they are getting less sleep!

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    1. Two hours!? Bless you, mama! And I agree, I think its so important to understand that every baby is an individual and respect each families right to choose what is best for them and their babies. I'm sure the day that our babies move out of the house we won't even remember the sleepless nights and those years of sleep deprivation will be just a speck in the grand scheme of life. Sending happy bedtime thoughts to you and your little man :)

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  3. BK still eats during the night. While I wouldn't say that she actually "wakes up" she will fuss a bit until I feed her or reposition her, so I wake up. Even if its only for two minutes, it's still uninterrupted sleep. Eventually these girls will give us our sleep back right?

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    1. That sounds exactly like our situation. And yeah, getting a full nights sleep back at some point is the plan, but I'm certainly not going to hold my breath waiting for it, that's for sure ;) Wishing sweet (uninterrupted) dreams to you and Miss BK!

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